By Alessandro Carosi
Last wednesday i went to Oxford to meet a friend i haven’t seen for long time,it was nice to catch up with an old friend after we haven’t seen for almost 4 years,i got the bus from Victoria station and have been a circus to find it,i thought i would go with National express but turn out that the bus company was an other one,to find the right bus stop i got crazy and i even lost my bus,fortunately the next one was only after half n hour later so not a real big deal but quite annoying,waiting for the bus i noticed a guy chatting with one of the drivers waiting to give the change to the other driver,i noticed the guy had a walking stick,he was young and i wondered what he might have,maybe he born like this,maybe cause too much drugs,i didn’t think about it too much and i got back to read on my phone,the bus arrived i got inside and as usual i started looking for the most comfortable seat,i found one that was perfect with a lot of space for my long legs,the guy i noticed at the bus stop took a seat in the front seats where the big glass gives you a nice panorama,when he seated he said something to an other passenger about how comfortable the bus was and i replied i was agree with him,as soon i said it he started to chat with me about the bus,i engaged in the conversation thinking to have a quick chat and then enjoying the relaxing trip reading something or doing some meditation,my plan would never happen,the guy was a chatterbox and there was no way he would stop,a lady sitting in the middle between us started to feel annoyed about us chatting and if i have to be honest i felt bad to cut the conversation with him cause he seemed a really nice guy so i decided to move in the front next to him and keep chatting until destination,that day i would never think i would be touched in my soul so much,that 2 hours spend in the bus talking with that guy made me think and understand a lot about how lucky i am and how so many of the things i was worry lately are actually just small things.
This guy is a hero,a kind of hero you don’t see on magazines,you don’t watch on the news,his story is so touching and the way he deal with it is amazing,something we should take as an example and learn from it.
He is 28 and what he have to deal daily is something he didn’t ask for it,is something he didn’t born with it,he told me about himself and how he end up needing a walking stick to walk,everything was fine until he was around 19-20 years old,then he started to feel some pain on his legs that grew stronger and stronger and even if doctors were keep telling him that was nothing serious he knew there was something wrong with him,after many visit and medical checks after doing an MRI scan he find out what he had,the doctor told him he had Fibromyalgia,
Fibromyalgia (FM) is a medical condition characterised by chronic widespread pain and a heightened pain response to pressure. Other symptoms include tiredness to a degree that normal activities are affected, sleep problems, and troubles with memory. Some people also report restless legs syndrome, bowel or bladder problems, numbness and tingling, and sensitivity to noise, lights or temperature. Fibromyalgia is frequently associated with depression, anxiety, and posttraumatic stress disorder. Other types of chronic pain are also frequently present.
The cause of fibromyalgia is unknown; however, it is believed to involve a combination of genetic and environmental factors with half the risk attributed to each. The condition runs in families and many genes are believed to be involved. Environmental factors may include psychological stress, trauma, and certain infections. The pain appears to result from processes in the central nervous system and the condition is referred to as a “central sensitization syndrome”. Fibromyalgia is recognized as a disorder by the US National Institutes of Health and the American College of Rheumatology. There is no specific diagnostic test. Diagnosis involves first ruling out other potential causes and verifying that a set number of symptoms are present.
The treatment of fibromyalgia can be difficult. Recommendations often include getting enough sleep, exercising regularly, and eating a healthy diet. Cognitive behavioral therapy may also be helpful. The medications duloxetine, milnacipran, or pregabalin may be used. Use of opioid pain medication is controversial with some stating their use is poorly supported by evidence and others saying that weak opioids may be reasonable if other medications are not effective. Dietary supplements also lack evidence to support their use. While fibromyalgia can last a long time, it does not result in death or tissue damage.
Fibromyalgia is estimated to affect 2–8% of the population. Women are affected about twice as often as men. Rates appear similar in different areas of the world and among different cultures. Fibromyalgia was first defined in 1990 with updated criteria in 2011. There is controversy about the classification, diagnosis, and treatment of fibromyalgia. While some feel the diagnosis of fibromyalgia may negatively affect a person, other research finds it to be beneficial. The term “fibromyalgia” is from New Latin, fibro-, meaning “fibrous tissues”, Greek μυώ myo-, “muscle”, and Greek άλγος algos, “pain”; thus the term literally means “muscle and fibrous connective tissue pain”.
He lived with this problem for the last 7-8 years,he told me how much he hates being in benefit and want to be useful for the society,he tried to do some work but the pain was too much to handle and he had to stop,he went trough depression but he fought back and decided he would not let life take him down,he try his best to have a normal life,he meet friends and as much he can he try to be helpful,talking with him i could tell that he reads a lot and knows a lot,he try all he can to overcome this problem that life gave to him,i can only respect someone like him,that day he taught me a huge lesson,he taught me to be grateful for what i have,grateful for my health,grateful for life in general,doesn’t matter how many mistakes i made cause future isn’t granted but the present moment is.
Few days earlier i watched a video on internet about an Indian girl that when she was 18 years old cause a car accident end up on a wheel chair,it is an inspirational video of a girl that overcome her disability with a strong personality and teaching people around the world that nothing is impossible if we understand it,if we believe it
I told him about the video and about how what he said sounded similar to what this girl said so i shared it with him on facebook.
I’m lucky for the life i have,i keep forget about it but i’m really lucky,i must to be grateful everyday for what i have cause in life nothing is granted even our health,i’m lucky i met this guy cause he is a hero,he is a teacher that taught me to be stronger,i’m glad i met him.
Only one thing can stop us to enjoy life,is ourself,is our own mind that put limits,we are here in this game called life,let’s make the most of it.