Happiness is a choice

By Alessandro Carosi

This morning a friend shared with me a message from Pope Francesco ,I’m not Catholic and normally don’t care much about what they think or say but this time I find myself completely agree.

That’s what he said :

” Puoi avere difetti, essere ansioso e perfino essere arrabbiato, ma non dimenticare che la tua vita è la più grande impresa del mondo.Solo tu puoi impedirne il fallimento. Molti ti apprezzano, ti ammirano e ti amano. Ricorda che essere felici non è avere un cielo senza tempesta, una strada senza incidenti, un lavoro senza fatica, relazioni senza delusioni. Essere felici significa trovare la forza nel perdono, la speranza nelle battaglie, la  sicurezza nella fase della paura, l’amore nella discordia. Non è solo godersi il sorriso, ma anche riflettere sulla tristezza. Non è solo celebrare i successi, ma imparare dai fallimenti. Non è solo sentirsi felici con gli applausi, ma essere felici nell’anonimato. Essere felici non è una fatalità del destino, ma un risultato per coloro che possono viaggiare dentro se stessi. Essere felici è smettere di sentirsi una vittima e diventare autore del proprio destino. È attraversare i deserti, ma essere in grado di trovare un’oasi nel profondo dell’anima. È ringraziare Dio ogni mattina per il miracolo della vita. Essere felici é non avere paura dei propri sentimenti ed essere in grado di parlare di te. Sta nel coraggio di sentire un “no” e ritrovare fiducia nei confronti delle critiche, anche quando sono ingiustificate. È baciare i tuoi figli, coccolare i tuoi genitori, vivere momenti poetici con gli amici, anche quando ci feriscono. Essere felici è lasciare vivere la creatura che vive in ognuno di noi, libera, gioiosa e semplice. È avere la maturità per poter dire: “Ho fatto degli errori”. È avere il coraggio di dire “Mi dispiace”. È avere la sensibilità di dire “Ho bisogno di te”. È avere la capacità di dire “Ti amo”. Possa la tua vita diventare un giardino di opportunità per la felicità … che in primavera possa essere un amante della gioia ed in inverno un amante della saggezza. E quando commetti un errore, ricomincia da capo. Perché solo allora sarai innamorato della vita. Scoprirai che essere felice non è avere una vita perfetta. Ma usa le lacrime per irrigare la tolleranza. Usa le tue sconfitte per addestrare la pazienza. Usa i tuoi errori con la serenità dello scultore. Usa il dolore per intonare il piacere. Usa gli ostacoli per aprire le finestre dell’intelligenza. Non mollare mai … Soprattutto non mollare mai le persone che ti amano. Non rinunciare mai alla felicità, perché la vita è uno spettacolo incredibile ”

” You can have flaws, be anxious and even be angry, but do not forget that your life is the greatest undertaking in the world. Only you can stop it from failing. Many appreciate you, admire you and love you. Remember that being happy is not having a stormless sky, a road without accidents, a job without effort, relationships without disappointments. Being happy means finding strength in forgiveness, hope in battles, security in the phase of fear, love in discord. It’s not just enjoying the smile, but also reflecting on sadness. It is not just celebrating successes, but learning from failures. It’s not just feeling happy with the applause, but being happy in anonymity. Being happy is not a fate of destiny, but a result for those who can travel within themselves. Being happy is to stop feeling like a victim and become the author of one’s destiny. It is crossing the deserts, but being able to find an oasis in the depths of the soul. It is to thank God every morning for the miracle of life. Being happy is not being afraid of your feelings and being able to talk about you. It is in the courage to hear a “no” and regain confidence in the criticisms, even when they are unjustified. It is kissing your children, pampering your parents, living poetic moments with friends, even when they hurt us. Being happy is letting the creature who lives in each of us live, free, joyful and simple. It is to have the maturity to be able to say: “I made mistakes”. You have the courage to say “I’m sorry”. It is having the feeling of saying “I need you”. It is having the ability to say “I love you”. May your life become a garden of opportunities for happiness … that in the spring may be a lover of joy and in winter a lover of wisdom. And when you make a mistake, start all over again. Because only then will you be in love with life. You will discover that being happy is not having a perfect life. But use tears to irrigate tolerance. Use your defeats to train patience. Use your mistakes with the serenity of the sculptor. Use pain to match pleasure. Use the obstacles to open the windows of intelligence. Never give up … Above all never give up people who love you. Never give up on happiness, because life is an incredible sight ” Because only then will you be in love with life. You will discover that being happy is not having a perfect life. But use tears to irrigate tolerance. Use your defeats to train patience. Use your mistakes with the serenity of the sculptor. Use pain to match pleasure. Use the obstacles to open the windows of intelligence. Never give up … Above all never give up people who love you. Never give up on happiness, because life is an incredible sight ” Because only then will you be in love with life. You will discover that being happy is not having a perfect life. But use tears to irrigate tolerance. Use your defeats to train patience. Use your mistakes with the serenity of the sculptor. Use pain to match pleasure. Use the obstacles to open the windows of intelligence. Never give up … Above all never give up people who love you. Never give up on happiness, because life is an incredible sight ” Never give up … Above all never give up people who love you. Never give up on happiness, because life is an incredible sight ” Never give up … Above all never give up people who love you. Never give up on happiness, because life is an incredible sight ”

Literally he said that to be happy isn’t a matter of what we accomplish or we have but is a choice ,you can’t control what happening to you but you can control how you respond to it ,being happy is a choice ,mistakes are nothing else then learnings ,We need to be strong ,to stand up ,learn from it and keep going ,never give up ,never give up on happiness because life is an incredible show.

Yes I agree with what he said ,totally agree ,To apply what he says require a lot of within work ,really a lot but that’s the only way ,There is no other ways then what he talk about
The hardest work in life is the one on ourselves ,it require so much effort but that’s the recipe That’s why so many of us refuse to do it because is the hardest work
That’s why so many of us hide ourselves behind a relationship ,a job ,addictions ,It’s easier to be busy then face our own fears
It’s only when we stop chasing the material ,the money ,career ,relationship ,when there is nothing to hold on is when the real hard work starts ,we are on our own ,our own mind ,if we are able to find peacefulness ,happiness even in those moments that’s when we will find real success
When in front of us there is nothing then the unknown ,only then the real  life exam begins
We all talk about happiness
Here in Edinburgh I begun to understand ,We all talk about happiness ,We all chase it  ,here ,alone with my thoughts reviewing my life with nothing to hold on ,with nothing to hope for regarding the material ,with nothing to be pride for ,only now with the days passing by facing just one challenge ,the challenge of my own mind ,Only now at 39 years old unaware about what the future will be ,scared about failures ,loneliness ,fear to lose everything ,looking at so many men ended up homeless ,alone ,with nothing ,only now living with those fears I’m learning how to manage to be truly happy
It’s scary ,so scary
What the Pope says is the biggest true ,are we able to be happy ,truly happy even when for the rest of the world we are Mr ,Ms nobody ? when all the memories we have is mainly failure / learnings ? when the only future we see is painted black? Are we able to be kind ,gentle ,serene ,happy ? In those moments that we can find what we are looking for ,true happiness 

When we can be happy knowing that we got nothing then our own minds and souls then we can be really happy
This kind of work and achievement is the harder we can really do ,we can master an art ,a job ,can we master our own mind and soul ?? If we can ,we found true happiness
How many of us will face this moment ? Many will go back to the safest path ,Working hard ,addictions ,sex ,friends ,try to find external recognitions, Few of us will face our fears ,will face our weakness and try to change it

Every day is a new day to try to change ourselves and become a better version of what we used to be.

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